My children are afraid of me. Before going and getting all judgey on me you need to know, I don’t hit them and would never hurt them. So why do they fear me? I am a yeller.
In the past week, both my daughter and son have told me that they are afraid of me when I yell. My daughter said she isn’t afraid of her father, but she does fear me – just a little. As a result we have created a vicious cycle, she lies to me, I ask her to tell me the truth and she doesn’t. All out of fear that I am going to yell.
My son doesn’t lie to me but when questioned by me, gets upset because he is afraid I am going to yell at him. In his words, ‘I have seen you yell at —–(insert name here)’
The last thing I want is for my children to fear me. I love them more than anything in the universe and would never, ever hurt them. While I haven’t physically hurt them, my yelling seems to have caused other ‘bruises.’
I do not yell often, but when I do, I am loud. Looks like I have to reduce the yelling to not at all. Unless they are about to get hit by a car or are in danger, yelling is no longer allowed in my home.
Are you a yeller? Do you think it has had any long term effects on your children?
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